Because humans are so complex and unique it is hard to create a “general transformation process”, but we can still highlight three main questions that such a process would require.
1. On the Anxiety scale, from 1 to 10 what’s YOUR Starting point?
Anxiety is the best signal telling us that something is not good enough and can be improved, be that the personal boundary, neutralizing a trauma from the past, or identifying an unsolved need towards which it is worthy to channel all of your energy. Maybe your Anxiety “filled up the glass” and you find yourself nowadays to be always on the Edge. Maybe you’ve given up and fallen into Depression. Maybe you’re bouncing between these two states in “panic attacks”. All the negative emotions can be captured systematically and transformed, giving us some control over them. “Emotions may change on their own”, but sometimes we can help systematically by cementing the positive change.
Anxiety tells us that something is not good enough or not according to our expectations, and it comes in many nuances including fear, jealousy, guilt, naivety, failure, worrying, and other negative emotions.
So before jumping into doing something completely new, find out for yourself what is your level of Anxiety.
2. The source of this Anxiety: Is it External or Internal?
Is this Anxiety triggered by some external events, or by some internal past pains that became unbearable for various reasons (the glass got full and it’s about to explode at any moment)?
EXTERNAL: There are cases in which an external trauma (like a pandemic, the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a job) makes us question our entire lives, and further, sometimes it leads us to a fulfilling personal transformation (although always uncomfortable). Here, it is important to understand the difference between being on a transformation journey and just spending time suffering over the uncontrollable, believing that we might deserve that, as no one deserves to be miserable!
INTERNAL: Other times, various small things accumulate inside of us, making Anxiety part of ourselves. Little by little, we accept this Anxiety and that leads to perceiving ourselves in the world as a magnet for more Anxiety. Sometimes there is a trauma we kept with us all along, believing it was part of us, other times we might have missed something in our upbringing, other times our personalities didn’t match the cultural environment in which we found ourselves, and each of these contributes to the human ACCEPTING that they are “just more Anxious” and that they have to live life like that. EVERYBODY can make the best of their resources and the environment they’re in and can enjoy a FULFILLING LIFE!
Sometimes there are so many things that bring Anxiety, that the individual doesn’t understand what’s Internal and what’s External. In those cases, a professional can sort out the chaos and identify the two or three main sources of Anxiety to neutralize and transform and start the journey with. We, as professionals on these topics, can lead the process of transforming the Anxiety that is ALREADY inside of you into positive energy, inspire you to close the boundary to the new Anxiety that might be coming your way from the External environment, and Accept in the External environment the things that are out of your control that will only exhaust you if you allow them to consume you.
3. Where do you spend most of your Anxious Thinking time: in the Past? or in the Future?
Do you feel that you are living in the Past (ruminating over things that make you feel guilt, regret, naivety, failure, etc) or in the Future (and you feel jealousy, worry, revenge, etc)? It is important to understand what drives you: a desire for a better future, or a desire to overcome a more traumatic past. Understanding this will enable you to dose the energy correctly and focus on what could transform the biggest energy trapped inside of you into positive energy.
Individual Transformation journeys are not easy, but they shouldn’t be dreadful either! Going outside of your comfort zone doesn’t mean living in an even higher state of Anxiety or in an even more uncomfortable situation. You’ll know that you are on the right Transformation Journey when it feels energizing to change some of the needed things and accept others, and it will be exciting to find out exactly what would be the wisest thing to work on next.
Every transformation is different because every human is different in their complexity. There is no one system that captures everything in a practical manner, but the key here is to know what’s possible with the resources that YOU have and be able to balance between systems and concepts that are in opposition while keeping things very practical and energizing for you.
For the end of this year, we have a special offer, so try out the system with us. It’s a GUARANTEE that even after the first session you will have more clarity and more positive energy in your life!
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